Tag Archive: raising tweens

Push, pull

Parenting adolescent boys is akin to playing tug of war.  They want you to park as far away as possible when picking them up from basketball practice but need you to listen (and *gasp* maybe even hug them) when their team loses the tournament.  One minute you are “the meanest mom ever” and the next…

Overcoming the sense of entitlement

If you ask my children what they want for their birthday it will most likely be some type of electronic device.  Jared got a new cell phone last week for his 14th and Matt is already talking about what he wants for his birthday in September. We are a fairly conservative family financially.  We don’t…

Happy Birthday, Jared

You are confident. You are social. You are proud. You are moody. You are intelligent. You are funny. You are generous. You are friendly. You are industrious. You are passionate. You are…. a lot like your mama. Which is why we bump heads and disagree and say we are sorry and move on until the…

What is a friend?

We have been talking friends a lot in the Smallwood house.  Peer pressure is a force my boys are not immune to in the least.  And, friends are important.  We were created for relationship…with God and with others.  However, at this stage in life kids begin to rely on their friend’s opinions more than their…

Think on these things

As our children get older, it is important to place decision making in their hands more and more.  Where better for them to make mistakes or missteps then under the umbrella of our authority and guidance? While it is easier said than done for this mama to relinquish control (hello?  I am a recovering Type…