My kids are learning tough lessons by watching their grandmother go through a separation from her husband (whom they consider their “granddaddy”). The statistics regarding marriage in this country are plain sad- the United States has more divorce per capita than any other Western nation (divorcemag.com). I guess that means Jared and Matt shouldn’t be surprised that it is hitting this close to home. But, after watching them this weekend I realize that change like this shakes the foundation of their security and makes them question relationships, people, motives and their biggest fear- will this happen to Mom and Dad?
We have spent time talking, crying and teaching this weekend about the effects and impact of divorce. The biblical view versus the world view of marriage and divorce. Reassurance that even though the grown-ups aren’t getting along right now, it doesn’t have to change anything with the kids. That kids don’t have to concern themselves with grown-up problems and no one expects them to take sides.
I am praying for the strength to resist the urge to be angry- angry that my mom chooses dysfunctional partners 100% of the time, angry that my stepdad let us down, angry that my kids have to see yet another grandparent screw up and angry that people just don’t take marriage seriously (a covenant that God created) anymore.
Yet my wise hubby reminds me that life happens. All we can do is respond prayerfully to what is going on around us. We can’t protect our kids from pain or the harsh reality of living in a fallen world. We can just point out the lessons and wipe their tears. Being a parent is not fun right now….
