Wifey Wednesday- How to Awaken Love…

I am really excited and honored to participate in this meme, sponsored by Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. If you have never visited her blog I encourage you to do so for a refreshing look at living everyday life from a biblical perspective. You can visit her blog here and be sure to join in the Wifey Wednesday fun!

Today’s topic is how to awaken love. Now, come on gals, admit it. At one time or another (or most of the time) we have all lost that lovin’ feelin’ as the old song says. It is bound to happen, particularly when the demands of life leave you tired, cranky and irritable (or is it hormones that leave us feeling that way?).

I didn’t have a healthy view of sex when I got married. I was sexually abused as a child and that left me hesitant to let myself be emotionally vulnerable. At the same time, it left me caring little about myself and my body so I had many sexual partners before getting married (and I was only 18 when we married). This was a difficult issue for my husband when our marriage was young. He took sex much more seriously than I did at that time and knew intuitively that I was holding back emotionally. The more my love for my husband grew the less I wanted to have sex with him. I was afraid of making love.

Those are issues, that through the grace and mercy of God, we worked through together. We have attended marriage conferences, read books together and nurtured that part of our relationship. My husband has been respectful of certain situations or ways of being touched that are uncomfortable for me due to my past and God has freed me from the stronghold of shame regarding my past behavior.

Now we are at another stage in our marriage. Our kids are older and when they go for sleepovers at friend’s houses, etc and we have the house to ourselves, we have a level of comfort with each other that didn’t exist early in our marriage.

That doesn’t mean that we don’t still face challenges in our sex life (which by the way I can’t believe I am blogging about). With multiple sclerosis, there are days I am honestly too tired. My libido is affected by some of the medications I take. I praise God that he has given me a loving and understanding (most of the time) hubby and we are facing these days with prayer.

Awakening love for each other begins with inviting God into your marriage. It is important to not focus on ourself but on our love for our partner and the fact that this is the person God has chosen for us to spend our life with. Pray for your spouse daily. It is difficult to be angry at someone you are praying for and if you ask God to renew your desire for your husband or your energy for sex, God will. He designed sex as a way for couples to connect, it is a divine expression of love. In the confines of marriage, sex is nothing but blessed. So, go and pray for God to awaken your love for your spouse. And please share your feedback and ideas as well.